My medium friend, you are not a victim, nor were you in the wrong. That sophisticated young woman knew exactly who you are: a good dude. Homegirl was likely trying to escape the "bad daddy" who may have been preacher by day and pimp by night, hence the sophistication. Jesus didn't use churches. Some pastors & priests need cover for their predatory bullshit. (Check out the song Makes Sense to Me by Widespread Panic.)